Mother's Day

Mother's Day

Ziggy and Me
 
To all the mothers who have lost a child, or a pet & those mothers that are childless by choice or by circumstance.

Whether you are a mother to fur babies like me or are a mother by fostering or adoption or through marriage or even if you are lucky enough to have children of your own – we are all mothers in the same sense.

We have always celebrated Mother’s Day (we call it Mummy S Day!) Even though I do not have children I have been a mother to two beautiful fur and feather babies – Ziggy & Lemony.

Lemony and Me

This year, though Mother’s Day will be a bittersweet one for me.

My beautiful angel baby Lemony is no longer with us to call me mummy. She passed away suddenly towards the end of March and I am still grieving her loss terribly.

This little yellow bird who we ended up naming Lemony flew into our lives and our hearts. She helped to heal that part of me that has been for so long yearning for a child. Lemony being a lovebird required the love and attention of a 2-year-old toddler. She gave me a reason to get up in the morning and gave me a purpose.

Now that she has left us, she has left a gaping wound of a hole in my heart.

I am childless not by choice and I have only just recently begun to realise the affect that will have on the rest of my life. No children means no grandchildren and no legacy to leave behind.

Other things I have begun to think about are things like who will look after us when we get old?

Will our sisters & brothers and nieces & nephews still want to have anything to do with us or will they be too busy with their own lives?

It has been a heartbreaking realisation and that is why my bond with Lemony became so special. She was my “baby” I spent all day looking after her, preparing her food, playing with her, giving her medicine if she needed it, giving her baths and taking her to the vet. She literally spent every moment with me from the time she woke up to the time we tucked her in to bed at night.

Now that she is gone, I feel completely and utterly lost and confused and scared and alone. My purpose in life is now so unclear.

Only those who are childless and have a special bond with their pets whether they be a cat, dog, snake, bird, mouse or rat will truly understand what I am feeling today.

I am in my early 40’s and I always thought by now that I would have the perfect career, be happily married, own a beautiful house, have 2 or 3 children, and have a cat & a dog. You know the white picket fence perfect happy family dream!

Well, it turns out that I ended up being gay so my partner Katie & I do not fit the mould of married with kids and a mortgage. So where do we fit?

Well, we are still trying to figure that one out. But what I do know is that even after our short time with Lemony we have so much love to give. We plan to dedicate our lives to giving life to animals that need us. Whether that be through the continued work we do through Ziggy Belle and rescue charities or adopting or fostering other animals, making donations to rescue charities that need support.

Ziggy and me on her birthday

We only had Lemony in our lives for a short two years, but it was a wonderful two years. She has taught me some valuable lessons in life.

Always be happy - there is joy to be found in everything that you do.
Appreciate the little things in life – a flower, a butterfly, a sunset, a shell – beauty can be found everywhere.
Live every day like it might be your last – we only have a limited time on this earth – appreciate every day!
Love, Love & Love some more – love your family, your friends, your children, your pets and your neighbours.
Spend time with your family – special occasions, BBQ’s, picnics – enjoy your time with your family.
Always believe in yourself – believe that you can and then you will! 
Have fun and laugh everyday – laughter is the best medicine!
    Happy Mother's Day Everyone!! Have fun, eat cake & cuddle your fur babies!!!

    My Babies

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